I’ve been asked on several occasions when my next blog was coming. Well, my dream last night sparked a lot of thoughts for me today.
I woke up really upset with Chad, and he had no clue. I found myself stuck in the middle of a dream that seemed impossible to wake up from. I remember being with my family and being asked where Chad was. The dream progressed from bad to worse. The next significant memory is Chad telling me he just wasn’t that into me anymore. What? After all we’d been through, he just up and decides he’s not that into me? The rest of my dream was filled with trying to get his attention and to do all I could to win his affection again.
My dream sparked my thoughts for today. What am I doing to still keep his attention? We are all guilty of thinking since we married them they aren’t going anywhere. While this may be true, admit it, we like to know someone is head over heels for us!
I recently had a Facebook conversation about whether or not it was pathetic to sit in the same room and “chat” with your spouse. Here me loud and clear…ABSOLUTELY NOT! It’s not pathetic, it’s sweet! It’s almost like passing love notes in class! You do realize it’s easier to say things when you write them down.
It breaks my heart to know that there are couples that are struggling simply because they quit trying when they said, “I do”. Don’t give up! Even if it looks like you’ll never get their attention, I promise, it’s the little things. It will add up! Start small, be meaningful, and most importantly…DON’T expect anything in return. Reach deep down and discover what really gets their attention!
I’ve listed some ideas below, let me know some of yours!
Challenge #1: The next time you’re in the same room, start texting! Use your imagination! You might be surprised to find out exactly what your spouse is thinking :)!
Challenge #2: Where his favorite perfume…even if it’s not your first choice!
Challenge #3: Men – Give her the remote; Women – don’t assume they have other motives!
Challenge #4: Men-Find out what her favorite flower is, buy just 1, put it in a vase and sit it in front of the tv, computer, or cell phone and give her your undivided attention. This will let her know she’s cherished and valued above all else. Women – don’t assume they have other motives!
Use your imaginations, men and women! Love each other, continue to chase each other! Fall in love all over again, everyday!
Chad Bles
Jennifer Bles
Great post, Jen. I know exactly how you feel about waking up from a dream and automatically being mad at your husband. It can be difficult to transition from the dream back into reality.
Joe and I often leave notes for one another on the bathroom mirror with a dry erase marker. This is a great way for us to communicate our loving thoughts towards one another. It is also a great example for our kids because they always ask what is written on the mirror and question why we do that.
Joe is also great about leaving random love notes hidden throughout the house. I might find one in the laundry basket when I go to fold clothes that tells me how much he appreciates my work around the house or maybe find one under my pillow that lets me know how much he loves me as I lay down to sleep at night. As you said, a little goes a long way!
May God continue to bless your marriage and your family. I love you guys!